4 Self Care Tips: Dealing with Holiday Grief & Loss

Hi ladies!

As many as you know, my mother passed away in November 2011 two days after Thanksgiving. One of my keys in dealing with grief for me has been going to a Christian therapist. I wholeheartedly believe in therapy! I believe it is self-care. The same way we go to the dentist, for checkups….or the same way we go to the doctor for checkups is the way I feel about therapy. Going to therapy doesn’t mean you’re crazy! It means that you want to make sure that you are healthy in every way. Oftentimes, it’s easy to just sweep this under the rug, but I believe in order to heal what’s broken, you must confront it first. For this blog, I asked a highly skilled therapist to write this article for me on practical self-care tips. Share this with all you know who is dealing with some form of grief and loss during this holiday season.


4 Self Care Tips: Dealing with Holiday Grief & LossĀ 



Take some time to remember your loved one. This may look like however you choose. Looking at photos, journalizing your thoughts or memories, or even sharing your fondest memories with those you love.

Prepare yourself for the conversations you may encounter at holiday parties/family gatherings. Know your triggers, and know when you may need to step away from the conversation.

Surround yourself with someone that can be a person of support for you. Let them know what you need in those difficult moments. *Your support person would be a great guest with you to those holiday parties.

Do something to celebrate the life of your loved one. Try starting a family tradition like cooking a favorite recipe or taking up a hobby your loved one enjoyed doing while alive. The options are limitless when taking the time to remember those that are no longer with us.


-Self-care tips written by Krystal Alexander, MMFT ( Alexander Therapy alexandertherapy.wordpress.com )

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  1. Vassie Dukes on 22 Nov 2017 at 4:01 pm

    My Granddaughter,sent me this because she says I need someone to talk with,you see my Mother pass 2days before my birthday it was on the 6th of Nov. My brother passed 1 yr.today.my son passed March 29 My Daughter on my grandson’s birthday her son 31 July my husband on Jan.12, My Dad passed Sept.22 1day after my grandson’s and 1 day beforey son. November is a hard Month. My birthday is on the 8th Daughter was the 25th, Dad’s 27th Mom’s on the 29th so I have a hard time this Season.

    • amandafergusonblog on 26 Nov 2017 at 9:32 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear about your losses! I would highly recommend therapy! It has been a saving grace for me, and I’m a huge advocate of it.

  2. Vassie Dukes on 22 Nov 2017 at 4:03 pm

    Is there a way to talk with someone?

  3. Diane Dodson on 23 Nov 2017 at 6:55 am

    I am interested in what you have to say. I watch your conversation on etiquette, your teaching in Bootcamp. The 15 minute declutter which you mention about not taking all day to do. All my paper, notes, unopen mail, receipt, that was laying all over my room. I stuff them in a big purse, took them downstair, sit down, sorted through them, threw away a lot of junk mail, put my note that I throught I STILL NEEDED. organize them and I was done. And yes I do like how your hair flow, you knowing your angels. I have had a lot of grief mother, father, 2 sister, 3 brother, special nephew. It has. Been God that has kept me. Those memories enjoy, laugh, cry. Talk about it. Pray for strength. Lean on Jesus.

  4. Paul Willis Jr. on 23 Nov 2017 at 2:31 pm

    Good,very good!