3 Marriage Myths Debunked

marriage myths
Hi ladies! Last week we talked a little of how building a future with your spouse even in your wedding plans goes a long way. Before some have gotten married, there are expectations that aren’t a reality. Let’s discuss how even after marriage, life doesn’t get perfect.

1. Love is enough to have a successful marriage.

I often meet couples preparing for marriage, and I ask them how do they know that they are right for each other. Blushing, with the googly eyed smile, 99% percent of the time, the answers are the same “I love him….I love her”…and my response is “That’s great, and what else?  You see, “love only” doesn’t sustain a marriage, especially the romantic type of love. Don’t believe me? Well think about this: think about the people that you know who are divorced. Didn’t they love each other? I’ve personally never met a divorced couple, who can’t agree that they did love each other, and most likely, still do, even after the divorce. Love is wonderful, but it can’t be the “glue” of the marriage.

When couples have likeness of VISION, a cohesiveness between them is formed.

2. It’s your spouse’s job to make you happy.

I think my husband is amazing. He is very attentive to my needs and desires, but even still it’s not his job to make me happy. In fact it’s no one’s job to make me happy, but myself. I am the only one in control of my happiness. A spouse can certainly ADD to your happiness, but the sole responsibility of making you happy is too much for anyone to bear.

3. Marriage cures loneliness.

If you don’t enjoy being by yourself, then why would anyone else enjoy being with you? If you’re single, then know that just because you’re alone, doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely. Enjoy dating yourself. Take yourself out to dinner. It’s true…marriage is NOT a cure for loneliness. If you’re single, then know that just because you’re alone, doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely.

I pray that these 3 tips helped you see marriage from a different perspective. It’s true that you can definitely have an amazing marriage.

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♥Love you so much♥

Amanda Ferguson.

Wife. Mother. Author. Entrepreneur.


  1. Doris on 25 May 2017 at 11:09 am

    This is So cool ..learning alot I used to think it’s love .. that holds,marriages together ..today I learnt is vision thank youv!!

    • amandafergusonblog on 25 May 2017 at 11:34 am

      you’re welcome:)

  2. Dawna on 25 May 2017 at 11:55 am

    Awesome article and truth!!

    • amandafergusonblog on 25 May 2017 at 12:07 pm

      thank you!

  3. prophetess Buchanan on 25 May 2017 at 11:59 am

    So inspiring! Many women of God really believe those myths. Thank you for bringing such clarity!

    • amandafergusonblog on 25 May 2017 at 12:06 pm

      thank you ! 🙂

  4. Shenita on 25 May 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Very insightful! Thanks for sharing!

    • amandafergusonblog on 25 May 2017 at 2:48 pm

      very welcome 🙂

  5. Alice on 25 May 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Great read! And I totally agree, love is never enough to sustain a marriage. Couples need to work hard to make the marriage work but more importantly, a marriage with God as its foundation is sure to stand all tests and trials.

    May God bless you more Amanda!

  6. Kim on 27 May 2017 at 9:38 am

    Great read and so true!

  7. Keisha on 27 May 2017 at 7:32 pm

    This has been enlightening. As a young woman I have learned a lot from this blog. My perspective has shifted a lot. Also, your instagram post about Memphis Boot Camp has been an encouragement to me. I know my yes to God and the nudging of the Holy Spirit is my gate. Rather than listening to the opinions of man.

    • amandafergusonblog on 27 May 2017 at 8:11 pm

      amen glad I could help 🙂

  8. April Johnson on 8 Jun 2017 at 11:56 am

    This is right on time! and much needed you have touched on some very important principles. I have put breaks on the idea of getting married. While in prayer God revealed something’s in me that needed to be healed. I did not grow up with a father figure (my father passed away when I was a teenager) I struggled with seeing God as my father who loved me dearly A good father gives his daughter security,affirmation and love. I am learning how to relate to God has my father who loves me dearly. After reading your blog I know I am on the right track in my pursuit of God’s presence. As God is restoring me to wholeness GLORY!!!! Then I will be prepared to be a loving wife. Love you sis and thanks for always being a blessing:)

  9. Gifty on 5 Sep 2017 at 3:18 pm

    Hello Ms. Amanda please can you elaborate on what you mean by likeness of vision.