Dear Mom of Small Kids, I See You

Mom Small Kids

Our eyes lock at the grocery store, as we’re both zooming past the aisles so that our toddlers won’t see those oreos on aisle 5 that they will undoubtedly demand to be opened right then, as if they will absolutely starve to death in that moment without them. I see you.

At restaurants, I feel your anxiety and hunger pains when your full plate of food has not been TOUCHED trying to nurse a baby while getting the bigger kids settled….just praying that all goes well so that you can eat before your food goes cold or before any child decides to break free from their high chair or booster seat. …. I see your nervous smile as you can just FEEL the stares and the glares from people as your child has a meltdown wondering why on EARTH you would be peas on their plate…. And so people stare. And won’t they stare? Oh, Mama, I see you.

And then you’re invited somewhere. BUT you notice that the invitation time is for 12 noon and you know it’s naptime, so you have to politely decline. You’re brave, but not THAT brave to skip these naps because without them how would you clean, do those stacks and stacks of laundry…wait, who am I kidding.. how would you SHOWER? And that’s the ONLY guaranteed time that you can be all alone by yourself…unless your littles are like mine and will wait at the door until you’re done:) Trust me, mama, I see you.

I see you late at night when the kids are all in bed, when you’ve beat yourself wondering if you did the right thing, said the right thing, disciplined the right way, hugged enough, loved enough…… yes, I see you.

I see you beating yourself up looking at your body in disbelief because it didn’t snap back by week 6 like the other lady you saw on instagram, and you’re trying to figure out how to get used to this “new” body. You’re wondering if you should try the “tea”, or the “wrap”, and you decide neither and just go for ice cream. Ahhhh ice cream! I see you.

But most of all, you wonder if you’re invisible. Not you, physically, but you wonder if your needs and wants are invisible. Because somehow you’ve convinced yourself that moms don’t need a break…Ever. But deep down you’re crying out for just a moment to drink a HOT (not lukewarm) cup of coffee and just be…womanly.

Well mama, I want you to know that you’re not invisible. Let me repeat, you are NOT invisible. You have a whole village of women who understands you.

Some of us are working moms, stay at home moms, married moms, single moms, but one thing we have in common is, we are MOMS. And that every once in a while, we want to hang up our superwoman cape and take a day OFF…or at least one hour. When our spouses and even some of our friends don’t understand, we have each other.

So, I challenge you to reach out to a fellow mom of small kids today. No one knows her better than you. She needs your love, your strength, your affirmation, AND your amazingly hilarious stories . She also needs your hand clap because more than likely, she has forgotten to pat her own self on the back. And just in case you don’t have that support around you at this very moment, let me be the one to tell you today; Dear mom of small kids, I see you, you are AWESOME, and you’re doing great.

If you enjoyed this blog, click HERE to read my “go to” scriptures that encourage me the most as I try to be the best mom that I can be. 🙂

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♥Love you so much♥

Amanda Ferguson.

Wife. Mother. Author. Entrepreneur.




  1. prophetess Buchanan on 8 Jun 2017 at 10:47 am

    I recall over 30 yrs ago, wishing there were BETTER Christian “how to” books for Mothers, and always wondering if I was doing the right things with my little ones. I used to worth my first pastors wife with endless questions! This blog is so inspiring to young mothers! Blessings be to you woman of God!

    • amandafergusonblog on 8 Jun 2017 at 11:17 am

      awww thank you !

  2. April Johnson on 8 Jun 2017 at 11:08 am

    WOW this is such an inspiration for women raising small children. Very insightful although I don’t have little ones at home.I certainly appreciate the love and wisdom I felt while reading your blog. It sounds like a book:) Blessing sweet WOG!!

    • amandafergusonblog on 8 Jun 2017 at 11:18 am

      I definitely plan to write a book about this soon:) Thank you!

  3. Shawn Tillard on 8 Jun 2017 at 12:51 pm

    Great article. Thoughtful and practical. Im much older than you, but I raised twins as a single mom. Ingram and Celeste will be twenty five July 25th. What a journey. It is worth it. Amanda keep writing and encouraging . We are capable of so much. We need our network of friends, we need inspiring articles like youve written. Thank you. See you in Jacksonville July 21st.

    • amandafergusonblog on 8 Jun 2017 at 12:59 pm

      thank you and awesome! See you soon:)

  4. Tracy on 12 Jun 2017 at 6:04 pm

    Wow!!! Thank you for normalizing my life. Awesome, read. (I see you).

    • amandafergusonblog on 15 Jun 2017 at 5:21 pm


  5. Chevorneise McLeod on 23 Jul 2017 at 7:16 pm

    Hello Amanda. My name is Chevorneise i was at the bootcamp in Jacksonville this weekend. I wanted to talk to you but was unable to do so. For the past month i find myself seeking God about my purpose of earth. I grew up in church all my life, singing in the choir, usher, teaching Sunday school, spoke once at a youth conference. But i still have a void in my spirit that needs to be filled. I need that supernatural divine encounter. I even get frustrated with seeking about my purpose. I see people get called out about there purpose and I am like Lord am right here what about me. What do i need to do. Help.