Why I Didn’t Lose Myself When I Became a Wife and Mother
Wife and Mother
Hi ladies!
Maybe you’re feeling drained in a lack of purpose as a wife and mother sometimes. Let me tell you, there is hope as I have learned these very important points that I will now share with you.
1. I Understand that Seasons Change
Motherhood. There I was in summer of 2014 with an infant and pregnant with our second daughter. To say I was tired was an understatement. I remember at one point I felt passionless and upset. I was upset because I felt like I was drowning in bottles, wipes, and the demands of the day! I wanted to do something that made ME feel alive. I really did enjoy being a mom, but I was like “Come onnnnn, I need more!”
Day in and day out, I did the same thing. And one day it came to me, “I’m not happy because it’s my choice not to be.” I realized that I COULD still do something meaningful in that season. And so I began to pray, pray, and pray. I asked God for my purpose during those days and weeks. And Out of that season birthed my best-selling book full of encounters with the Lord, called Facetime: Pursuing the Presence of Jesus. I realized then that every single day and every single season of your life is full of purpose. Go on an adventure to discover it!
♥ Helping Note: Don’t worry so much about tomorrow that you neglect the beauty in today!
2. I Understand My Assignment
Wife. When you’re single you can be concerned about the things of the Lord, but when married you’re to be concerned about the things of your husband. Does that mean that you have to neglect what God has called you to do? No, but it does mean that “you don’t need to be in the corner somewhere doing your own thing.” What God calls me to do is in direct alignment with what God has called my husband to do! We preach together, currently we are writing a book together, we design courses together, and yet I still plan my own ministry events and have my own consulting firm doing what I have always dreamed of doing since I was 8 years old!
3. I Fill Up
Me Time. I’ve also realized that no one can withdraw from me if I’m on empty. So, I arrange to get a pedicure, go upstairs alone and read a book by myself, and I’m currently planning a mini trip for my husband and I. Last week I felt like I was on vacation because I was able to go to Target…with no kids! And we all know that Target is an adventure allll by itself. I realize that I’m a better ME when I take time for Me. So please, don’t skip this part at all.
Comment below one thing that you plan to do to fill up this upcoming week. 🙂
So, I pray that these few tips helped you. For those who feel like you’re drowning in your roles, I’m sending special prayer and “hugs” to you. I’m praying for supernatural strength for you, and a village that you can turn to when you need just some YOU time. 🙂
Speaking of village, I have decided to create an online village of women called “The Lady Extraordinaire.” You will receive tips in the area of family, ministry, and the marketplace. I believe it will be a cool place to network with other women! If you’re interested, just click this link and officially like the page. I’ll be going live weekly as well as giving you a ton of resources. And if you’re in or near the Dallas area, I’ll also have a monthly in person meeting, with the first one being August 26th. If you’re interested in that, click here, and we will be sending you over some information shortly. The next few months will be absolutely amazing. 🙂
♥Love you so much♥
Amanda Ferguson.
Wife. Mother. Author. Entrepreneur.
Hey! I’m still single, but I have been taking advantage of the time I have now to seek for more healing. I am also RESTING! I have seen so many testimonies about how marriage is work, so I have been setting aside time to rest and finish school and TRAVEL. thanks again for sharing your blog! I definitely look forward to seeing you soon!
-Anna Bloomer
LOVE this! Nothing like traveling the world:) Can’t wait to see you soon, too!
So needful and helpful, thank you Amanda! Blessings!
You’re very welcome:)
I will get my nails done tomorrow. This keeps Toni, Toni the person.
Love getting my nails done, too:)
I will read a book by myself! Thank you Amanda! Blessings!
I looove reading:) Blessings to you as well:)
barely get to even do that when my toddlers are around 247 ?. I have to wait late at night when they are asleep but I be too tired by the day with cleaning, chasing after them, doing things with them and cooking before husband gets home…my days be drowned…..
Awesome post! I just got my hair done, tht was my me time…!Keep up good work!
sounds good! nothing like a fresh hairstyle:)
This was SO on time for me…much needed! But how in the world do you do it?! I support my husband in ministry and a stay at home mom to a 5, 2 & 8mo old; and I can barely keep my eyes open when I finally sit down at night! You are truly a gift & I admire your drive!
well our older two are in preschool and our youngest is in daycare now until 12:30 pm starting this past week. Being a SAHM is awesome, and I know you’re doing great!
Im married and I be so drowned with toddlers and since its not school time for my 12yr old, drowned for attention also. This upcoming week on August 7th Im going to so something different but Im preparing to be in full concencration and prayer because Im how you were, I want more in my life. Ive been to 2 medical schools and still not working in the field,a certified phlebotomist and still have not worked in what I went to school for I felt like a failure for a while. My grandmother was a nurse aid and I used to help her but she is gone away, I have other talents, and in the process of perfecting my music talent in playing the keyboard, braiding hair and I love beauty products like face skin and hair which is part of my business called Seacret direct. I have even written a book and don’t know what to do. I have not got that off the ground just yet due to lack of finances but I will be working soon. I just need more direction as a wife. Thank you so much for this blog.
Wow this is so helpful although I am single I still can relate to busy life and neglecting time for your self. I had to learned how to say NO some something’s and make time for myself. I love love traveling!!! I use to travel a lot mainly as an assistant in ministry serving the woman of God. I am in a different season. Before I get married I want to travel the world explore the awesomeness of all God has created. Currently, focused on my purpose and destiny God put some things in my heart that he wants me to fulfill. Thank you sis for sharing truly a blessing to the body of Christ and I always look forward to what the lord will speak through you:) blessing WOG!
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aww thank you!
Yesss!!! These tips are soooo helpful – even for someone like me who is not a wife or mother yet lol Thank you so much for sharing with us. It is needed!