5 Ways I KNEW My Husband Was The One For Me PT.1



Picture from my modeling shoot


Did God tell you He was the one?

How did you KNOW he was the one?

Listen, sis, don’t be too deep as it relates to dating. I hear so many ladies saying “I’m just waiting on God to speak to me concerning this guy”……Hmmmmm let me make it plain: When you are hungry, do you consult God about whether to eat or not? Absolutely not. He made us with a “sensor” to let us know when we are hungry, and it’s time to eat.

God gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit to help lead us and guide us, yet He is not going to lead us in the particular areas that we ignore the wisdom that He has already given us. Ok, so the guy you are dating has no passion & faithfulness for God, no character, no accountability, etc…yet , you’re waiting on God to speak to you and say “yay or nay” concerning that guy…Umph.

Move on, sis. God has so much more in store for you.

I can’t say that I had this “Ah Ha” moment where God spoke to me that Jonathan was my husband. However I did pay attention to EVERYTHING and we mutually made the decision that we were the best fit for each other. Without a doubt, we can both say that we made the best decision! I couldn’t imagine being married to a more perfect man for me (not perfect, just perfect for me) And vice versa, I’m his perfect fit.

After salvation, who you will marry is the single most important decision that you will ever make in your life. CHOOSE WISELY.

This is not a special formula but these are 5 ways that I KNEW that my husband was the one for me. I will be giving you three of five ways in this blog, and the remainder in a second blog featuring part two of this subject:

1.He loved God in words and deeds.

When I met Jonathan, he was currently on a 40 day liquid fast…whew! That’s real dedication! Jonathan was and is a man after God’s own heart. Fasting and his prayer life was and is an intricate part of who he was. He didn’t just talk about God, he LIVED for God and still does to this day.

The first things that stood out to me about him is how his love for God superseded everything else in his life. He wasn’t ashamed to lift his hands in worship and bow his knees in prayer in outward adoration of the Father. He didn’t mind crying out to God…His heart was so tender towards the Father. I immediately noticed that he was a man who wholeheartedly was striving to live the life that was pleasing to God

◊Helping tip: A man who doesn’t want to break God’s heart, won’t want to break yours.

Throughout the course of our 3 year friendship, before we wed, his fasting, prayer, and devotional life was still consistent. He didn’t waiver in his pursuit of God. I knew that I could follow and submit to a man like that.


2. He only wanted me

This may sound like a no brainer, but it’s not. I see women settling all of the time for a guy who likes her, but doesn’t want ONLY HER. Honey, don’t settle for being the SIDE chick OR the MAIN one, be the ONLY one.

◊Helping tip: Don’t make someone a priority, when you’re only an option.

There was a season where we were considering dating that my husband was torn in between me and another young lady, and he told me. I cried, got upset, and then I realized my worth…So what did I do? I changed my number, deleted all text threads, pictures, and blocked him on social media. Why? Because I was serious about my heart AND about my worth.

◊Helping Tip: Just because a guy doesn’t see your worth does not diminish your value

He called me back and got that special message when your number is changed. I was THAT seriousMy heart was serious-My time was serious-My intent was serious.

AND I WASN’T DOING IT TO GET HIS ATTENTION OR GIVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM. He made his decision so I simply made mine.

◊Helping Tip: Never give a man an ultimatum. Simply decide what you will and will not allow.

We reconnected a few months later and this time he knew I was the one for him. No gimmicks, no games, no questioning. We dated for 2.5 months, engaged for 1.5 months, and then married! March 2016 will make 4 years of marriage! No one was pregnant, we were not in a rush…we just decided to cut all the games out. After all, we had spent almost three years already becoming the best of friends and getting to know each other.


3.He was accountable.

When we started dating, after telling his father, he told other proven Godly men in our lives that we were serious about getting married. He put himself in a position to be accountable to these men concerning his life and his intentions towards me.

◊Helping Tip: Men know men. Give the men in your life access to the one you are dating.

It’s easy for women to overlook certain things when you’re “in love” but don’t take this for granted.I know this is getting good, but I will stop here. I will elaborate more on this point of accountability and the remainder of the points on part 2 of this blog so stay tuned. . . . . . . .

birthday dinner

♥♥Us headed to my 30th birthday dinner last week!♥♥

For additional tips on relationships, recipes, fashion tips, and more, check out my devotional for single ladies at this link ! #conqueringthecrossroads 



  1. Jaz on 28 Jan 2016 at 6:51 pm

    Love this!!

  2. Candice on 28 Jan 2016 at 6:52 pm

    Hi, this is really good and so true.

  3. AISHA on 28 Jan 2016 at 7:11 pm

    This is awesome !!! Thanks for sharing

  4. Jamazcia Simon on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:02 pm

    Hello Lady Amanda,
    This was simply BEAUTIFUL on so many levels as well as educational for me. Throughout my life and dating and experiences and one marriage, I missed out on a lot of tips and points that you mentioned. This has really enlightened me and when that time come, I will remember you. I love you and Prophet Ferguson and I thank God for such a BEAUTIFUL couple. You ARE a great example to this generation and to the nation. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you and your family ALWAYS!?

  5. letasha chambers on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:02 pm

    This blog really blessed me

  6. TeeTee on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:10 pm

    This was a great read. I definitely wait to hear from God when I started dating Moses but I was definitely lead to say yes to him pursuing me. I didn’t know my worth, but I learned it overtime. Thank you so much for your beautiful article. I love you both.

  7. Danille Bates on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:13 pm

    Great read and very informative! Definitely looking forward to part two!

  8. Angela Martin on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:40 pm

    What an excellently presented blog by an excellently presented lady. The content was of equivalent quality covering a period of spiritually seeking God first and foremost.

    I can’t wait for part 2.

    Angela D. Martin

  9. TMS on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:56 pm

    Good read. You me mentione that your husband had a time he needed to choose between you and amother young lady. Were you okay with him dating other people at that time?

    • amandafergusonblog on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:57 pm

      we weren’t dating yet so he was considering which one he would date. I don’t believe in open dating , personally.

      • TMS on 28 Jan 2016 at 9:03 pm

        I 100% agree with you! I asked because I have been seeing a guy for the past two months and thinks we should date other people to see if this will work. I personally think that you can’t be that into me if you need to talk to multiple people. He is not a bad guy at all. Definitely God fearing, fast all the time, ambitious, but he has been married before (at a pretty young age). Since you made through your situation, do you have any advice?

        • amandafergusonblog on 28 Jan 2016 at 9:05 pm

          I can’t say , really. Go with whatever you have peace about 🙂

  10. Nathalie on 28 Jan 2016 at 8:57 pm

    Wow, that’s deep, really inspiring for single ladies out there that don’t know their value and willing to settle for less,i really like the blog i will stay tuned until then
    God bless you !

  11. Kaylan McKay on 28 Jan 2016 at 9:01 pm

    I am convinced that the holy spirit led me to this blog. I truly understand my worth and I’m not settling for anything less than I deserve. Thank you Woman of God. You really encouraged me.

  12. Dusty on 28 Jan 2016 at 9:26 pm

    Awesome! Glad to see you blogging and doing well in all areas of life. Continue to be blessed and a blessing others.

  13. Carli Edwards on 28 Jan 2016 at 9:42 pm

    Awesome!!! If he doesn’t want to break Gods heart he won’t want to break yours, THAT blessed me!!!

  14. Torissa on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:01 pm

    This was awesome! Keep doing great things❤️

  15. Shannor Wright on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:06 pm

    This is just awesome!!..will definitely share this with other young adults that are either dating or thinking about dating.

  16. Linda Estes on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:09 pm

    This is AWESOME Amanda! So much great insite in just these 3 points that you’ve posted. This is helping a lot of women, including myself. I just Love you and your ministry to women! Thanks!

  17. keshagray on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:10 pm

    Good insight! Helpful tips! Looking forward to part 2!

  18. Esther on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:15 pm

    Hello Amanda,
    This is awesome! I love your blog, it has honesty. I enjoy seeing your family on scope. Btw, my daughter is 10 and she looks just like you?yes, I have a heavenly beautiful princess.

    Await for part 2??

  19. Genetra Benjamin on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:16 pm

    Awesome!!! Can’t wait for the next.

  20. Ashley on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:38 pm

    Awesome I love this . I’m a married woman and I can tell you I agree so much to this . I can’t wait until you talk about organization God is definitely dealing with me in this area . I love you woman of God .

    • amandafergusonblog on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:26 pm

      organizational tips will probably be posted in about 2 weeks:) thanks for reading!

  21. Lakeisha Wells on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:40 pm

    This was amazing……. where was this great information 14yrs. ago before I got married. I love my husband and I wouldn’t trade him for nothing in the world. We are learning and growing together in the Lord, and I thank God for that. He is my best friend above all. I appreciate you so much Amanda. I would have never thought back then when I first meet you at Word of Life Church, that you would grow up to be so amazing in the Lord. Let me take that back your Mom was an amazing woman and love God so that make you super amazing. I love you and thank God for you.

  22. Mameisia on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:47 pm

    I love how although you two separated, God brought it back together. Thanks for sharing sis. God bless you two!

  23. Santina on 28 Jan 2016 at 10:56 pm

    Love it! No 12 step way on how to get your man, just you doing you. I’m relieved that I wasn’t crazy when I said it can’t be all that complicated.. so Thanks you!

  24. Santina on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:03 pm

    Loved it!!!

  25. Abby on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:06 pm

    I truly enjoyed reading this. Thank you so much for sharing! May God continue to bless you as you do His will.

  26. Kearston Taylor on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:08 pm

    I’ve been married for almost 9 years this coming February and your story was inspiring and a breath of fresh air. I will definitely be passing this blog on to other single/married women in my family..

  27. Melissa on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:08 pm

    Great blog, can’t wait for part 2

  28. Dominique on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:39 pm

    Thank You so Much For Confirmation and Revelation. I definitely enjoyed reading your Blog, I can’t wait for part 2, and I’m so proud of you Woman of God! I Pray that God continue to Bless You and your family Tremendously! Love you Guys!!!

  29. Sharlene Yarbough on 28 Jan 2016 at 11:45 pm

    This was really great advice. Thank you so much!

  30. Melody rice on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:03 am

    This was a awesome read bless you!

  31. Crystal Marie on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:07 am

    Love it! I think you’re an admirable woman of God. Wish you guys the best! Jonathan was torn and you said,

    “We reconnected a few months later and this time he knew I was the one for him.”

    Did God speak & nudge him towards you? or was it his sole belief that you were the one to go after?

  32. adeshun on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:24 am

    OMG! I love this! This is really helping me a lot! I’m order your book Conquering the Crossroads on Kindle today! Keep inspiring us with your beautiful spirit!

  33. Natasha on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:30 am

    This was an awesome article. I will definitely share with my single sistas. Love and blessings to you and your beautiful family.

  34. Jordan Moyer on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:35 am

    This was so great! I’m beyond excited to keep reading! Thank you for sharing your life and the amazing things God has done!

  35. Rashana on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:48 am

    Amanda this blog is such a blessing to be and gives me hope as a single woman. Often times I have questioned whether I truly would be one with a man fashioned for me. Thank you for hope

  36. andia on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:00 am

    This is awesome Nobody Ever Talks About This!! Awesome,Awesome Thank You God!

  37. Natasha on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:03 am

    Hello Amanda, loved the article. I will definitely share with my single sistas. Thank you for your transparency. Love and blessings to you and your beautiful family.

    • Nicole on 29 Jan 2016 at 3:38 am

      Hello and thank you so much for sharing your story with the Single Sisters! I needed this! You mentioned that single ladies are quick to say…”I”m waiting on God to speak to me”, (that’s me all day) Lol, I would say that immediately after someone would ask me a question as to why I’m still single. I guess it’s a formed habit. Awesome & needed topic to discuss in the Body of Christ. God Bless you…. introductory part 1 Awesome! ready for part 2.


  38. Katina on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:12 am

    Excellent Read!! Definitely confirmation about not being an option! You are an inspiration. Thanks for your transparency. Awaiting Part 2.

  39. Grace E. on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:38 am

    Thanks Amanda for these great points!! This is advise that I plan to follow in the future. Thanks for being a big sis. Your scopes, and now your blog, are helping me to begin seeing and treating myself as a Godly lady of value and not to settle for whatever comes my way. God bless you!! I look forward to your next blog post! 🙂

  40. Grace E. on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:43 am

    Thanks Amanda for these great points!! This is advise that I plan to follow in the future. Thanks for being a great big sis. Your scopes, and now your blog, are helping me to begin seeing and treating myself as a Godly lady of value and not to settle for whatever comes my way. God bless you!! I look forward to your next blog post! 🙂

  41. Stephanie on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:43 am

    Great blog & @ perfect time. Just a reminder to keep focused. There are soooo many impostors ready & willing to play the role.

    Out of curiosity- what are ur thoughts, if any, on single girls wearing “purity rings” on their ring finger ( dual purpose 1) keeps away the creeps and 2) they can get over the ring fixation)

    • amandafergusonblog on 29 Jan 2016 at 4:52 am

      Thank you! I don’t really have much of an opinion about wearing the purity rings. Seems cool if it’s that person’s preference.

  42. Jatoya on 29 Jan 2016 at 1:54 am

    Love your blog,you guys are awesome??????..

  43. April Johnson on 29 Jan 2016 at 3:11 am

    I love your blog very transparent and authentic!! After reading your blog I know I am heading in the right direction!!! I can’t want to read part 2:)

  44. Megan Porter on 29 Jan 2016 at 3:15 am

    Great read! I enjoyed this!!! Thank you!

  45. Ingrid Johnson on 29 Jan 2016 at 4:23 am

    Praise God! You have an encouraging spirit. I appreciate your openess and honesty. All out your tips were powerful and on point. I look forward to reading more information on your blog.
    You all make a beautiful family. May God continue to bless you.

  46. Nikki on 29 Jan 2016 at 4:52 am

    I really enjoyed reading this! Can’t wait for part 2! You and your hubby have really been an inspiration to me! A group of single ladies and I are reading your devotional, “Conquering the Crossroads”, at work during our lunchtime break! It has really been blessing us in preparing for our husbands. You are truly an admirable woman of God!

    • amandafergusonblog on 29 Jan 2016 at 4:57 am

      so happy to hear! and you’re so sweet. Thanks so much! Make sure Y’all all write reviews on amazon:)

  47. ladyebonyl on 29 Jan 2016 at 5:35 am

    Reblogged this on ladyebonyl and commented:
    I love this Lady Amanda does a awesome job at giving insight on how she knew her husband was the one. I cannot wait to read the next part very well put, and great helpful tips that speak with strength and love.

  48. Monica Hilaire on 29 Jan 2016 at 5:44 am

    I didn’t know I could comment till now. Well this blog has been a blessing to me, after seeing & experiencing many of my family & friends not make the right choices when it comes down to this very important huge step in life, (Dating & MARRIAGE)…I myself haven’t always made the right choices. But God is good. I do believe God has someone special for me. 32 with no kids, never been married, I still have a chance, I want to do it right in the eyes of GOD. As I told you before Mrs. Ferguson I myself and other young women around the globe look up to you. I admire and adore your family. This is like women empowerment, we need positive Angels like yourself teaching young women the right things and choices to make in everyday life when it comes down to such a precious and special moment like dating & Marriage. I think this is very positive and supportive to the ones that still have a chance. God is awesome, and he only wants whats best for his children, I Thank you Amanda. I’m pretty sure I speak for all the women on this blog, Periscope, twitter etc. when I say we support you and what you stand for. God Bless 🙂

    • amandafergusonblog on 29 Jan 2016 at 12:45 pm

      so sweet! Glad to know that you were blessed by the reading:)

  49. Victoria on 29 Jan 2016 at 9:45 am

    This blessed me. Thank you for sharing!

  50. meshav on 29 Jan 2016 at 2:36 pm

    Love how real and relatable this is!! Awesome expression of your experience!

  51. Jackia garner on 29 Jan 2016 at 3:31 pm

    Oh my Gosh this just spoke VOLUMES to me!!! Love this!!!

  52. Sunny on 29 Jan 2016 at 4:55 pm

    Your family is so sweet and funny. Thanks for sharing with us. I’ve been married for 10.5 years. We have 4 little ones, and this blog blessed me. Keep going forward in God!

  53. Toneckah on 29 Jan 2016 at 6:26 pm

    Amazing blog! Thank you so much for sharing. Your periscopes have really blessed me and I look forward to your future blog posts!

  54. Grazia Crivello on 29 Jan 2016 at 6:51 pm

    Praise God! This spoke to me. I loved it. Keep writing and inspiring us, woman of God. I also loved the scope btw, prophet eating all the salmon dip and chips himself! Marriage is not only friendship BUT sharing! Come on, Prophet! Lol I thank God for ya’ll and cover ya’ll in the Blood of Jesus in daily prayer ♡

  55. Te'Ana on 29 Jan 2016 at 7:54 pm

    Well where do you find good men?? I don’t see any in my church and all I do is work and school

    • amandafergusonblog on 29 Jan 2016 at 7:58 pm

      Good men are everywhere. Key is to allow the right one to find YOU:)

  56. Te'Ana on 29 Jan 2016 at 8:04 pm

    How do you find good men like that?? All I do is work and go to school.

  57. Desiree on 29 Jan 2016 at 8:31 pm

    Excellent blog. You are helping so many women old and young how to be and live a Godly life. i also watch you on periscope and your light shines bright. you and your husband are such beautiful examples of what God can do when you give yourself completey to him. sincerley, Desiree

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  59. Joan on 29 Jan 2016 at 9:22 pm

    I love you guys thanks for helping

  60. Grace E. on 29 Jan 2016 at 9:42 pm

    Thanks Amanda for these great points!! This is advise that I plan to follow when I start dating. Thanks for being an awesome big sis. Your scopes, and now your blog, are helping me to begin seeing and treating myself as a Godly lady of value and not to settle for whatever comes my way. God bless you!! I look forward to your next blog post! 🙂

  61. Erika Holmes on 29 Jan 2016 at 10:18 pm

    Thank you!

  62. Esther Sullivan on 29 Jan 2016 at 11:16 pm

    Wow I bless God for you lovely woman of God. I been married since 96 to my late husband (rip ) and now to another for 10 years. I’m in my 40s and this blog has blessed me loads.
    Especially the tips. That one of ” a man who doesn’t want to break God’s heart won’t want to break yours’. This is a good thing I will use speaking to my 15 year old daughter and ladies in church.
    I love you Amanda and the prophet. You are truly a prefect fit for each other.
    Bless you and praying for you.
    Mrs Sullivan

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  64. Zindia on 30 Jan 2016 at 6:06 am

    Thank you soo much Woman of God. Those are some real deal tips right there. I pray you and your husband keep living under an open heaven where blessings don’t ever stop flowin! Keep receiving from God to keep blessing us. With much love Zindia

    • Zindia on 1 Feb 2016 at 5:04 am

      Plus. I LOVE y’all’s outfits for your 30th Birthday Dinner!! You are the highest woman of God that I look up too. Love you!! Bless You!!!?Praying for you always, everyday. And I really mean that too?. Zindia

  65. lisathehomeschoolingmom on 30 Jan 2016 at 1:06 pm

    I just love following you guys on social! Awesome blog!

  66. Aleya Jones on 30 Jan 2016 at 1:21 pm

    Absolutely Great Advice

  67. Tanika Wheeler on 30 Jan 2016 at 2:26 pm

    Awesome read!!!

  68. Kim Patterson on 30 Jan 2016 at 6:31 pm

    Such a blessing!!!!!

  69. Catina on 30 Jan 2016 at 6:47 pm

    Good info!! What a lovely couple ?. I’ve been married ? to my husband for some years now. We have 3 beautiful children. Today I’m still in love ❤ with. I often thank God for my Boaz?.
    God Bless

  70. Christal May on 30 Jan 2016 at 7:24 pm


  71. Shantel on 30 Jan 2016 at 7:27 pm

    These principles have to be passed on to our daughters. So many times mother’s wait until that daughter is already deeply involved with the wrong man then tell her that the man is no good for her. If there is one thing I have learned it is to never compromise on what you will and will not tolerate. This is an awesome word of wisdom that is much needed in our society! Thanks!

  72. latrice on 30 Jan 2016 at 9:55 pm

    Powerful but so true God bless yall and u helping me !!!!!

  73. Julia Kincaide on 31 Jan 2016 at 3:22 am

    As a single Christian woman in her early 30’s, who still believes in Godly courtships and maintaining standards, I cannot tell you how elated I am to read your blog. It is encouraging to know that there are redeemed women of God who do not conform to worldly trends of dating and exemplify poise and grace in relationships with the opposite sex. Your story gives me tremendous hope that in holding out for Mr. Just Right for Me, that the wait and preparation would not have only been well worth it, but that my story will compel other women (young and old) to have unwavering faith in their single journey while waiting for their future spouse. May God bless you and your family immensely! Looking forward to #4-#5 😉

  74. CeCe on 31 Jan 2016 at 5:43 am

    Oh, My sister. I was really encouraged by this story. We, as women settle in so many ways and don’t follow our intuition. I’m so excited to hear the remainder of this story.

  75. Vernarda80 on 31 Jan 2016 at 10:01 pm

    You and your husband have been such a blessing to me. I’m so thankful to God and the prophet for the spiritual connection. I’m excited about your future.

  76. Homeschooling Calkins on 1 Feb 2016 at 1:10 am

    Awesome work!

  77. Paulina on 1 Feb 2016 at 5:06 am

    Thank you for this awesome testimony and this message has blessed me.

  78. Pamela Dobson aka Mama Pam on 1 Feb 2016 at 5:14 am

    Blessings daughter Amanda, I just saw your Periscope talking about this blog and came by to check-it-out, daughter, what a blessing you are, I am 46/64 lol met my husband while in the midst of divorce( I do value myself and respect myself and will not allow you to disrespect me), 6 months after merting, we got married, currently married 1 1/2 year and seeking the perfect will of God in our marriage…I started a Sev7n Minute Read of the book, Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, so my dear, me the older and you the younger on a mandate to secure and save marraige 🙂 you pray for me as I am daily praying for you and Prophet Ferguson…love you daughter of Zion.

  79. April Beard on 1 Feb 2016 at 12:51 pm

    Excellent read!!!!!

  80. Elina on 1 Feb 2016 at 5:33 pm

    This is beautiful, thanks for sharing, God bless you and your family.

  81. rakeyaw on 2 Feb 2016 at 2:05 am

    Reblogged this on PLUSH MAGAZINE and commented:
    Absolutely cute!

  82. Abundance of Faith (MA) on 2 Feb 2016 at 11:07 pm

    Beautiful blog. God is good! Thank you for sharing.

  83. Michelle Smith on 2 Feb 2016 at 11:12 pm

    You will reach many women with this word! This has truly touched my heart and has made me reevaluate my relationship! Thank you WOG for your awesome MINISTRY! This word will DEFINITELY change my life!

  84. Marie-Sylvie Sturhann on 3 Feb 2016 at 4:16 pm

    You are a beautiful woman! And I love the spirit of God in you and on you! Let God bless your family! Keep up the good work.

  85. karlavblog on 23 Feb 2016 at 8:46 pm

    Deleted the text threads tho!!!!!!! giiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrllllll! lol.
    Love this!

  86. Yeesha Small on 8 Sep 2016 at 3:39 pm

    Really helped!!! Thank you.

  87. Jamera on 21 Sep 2016 at 7:07 pm

    Greatness, you all are on your way I’m happy for you n I love y’all.

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