Did God Tell You That He Was The One?
Hey ladies!
Thank you all so much for the love and feedback. I am proud to announce The God Given Husband Ebook is live NOW 🙂I am very pleased to share with you what God has imparted to me on your behalf. Can’t wait to hear how God spoke to you.
Now on to the blog…
I get this question SO much.
Ladies constantly ask me did God tell me and Jonathan individually that we were the one for each other. I honestly can’t say that God definitively told us that we were the one for each other, but he did give us the power of choice, and we can both say hands down we made the absolute best choice in choosing each other.
I can’t tell you that God won’t tell you who your mate is, but I will tell you that he doesn’t HAVE to.
The key to avoiding distractions in relationships is not becoming so enamored by superficial things that you overlook the things that matter the most.
Just think, milk is still beautifully white whether it’s spoiled or not. At first glance it may not look spoiled, but you take one whiff of spoiled milk and you wouldn’t dare want to drink it.
Some of you have sniffed out ungodly characteristics in your prospective mate.
You’ve noticed things like his lack of character, his lack of pursuit, irresponsibility, despondency to the things of God, etc just to name a few.
Do. Not. Overlook those things. God is giving you a small peak into your future.
With that in mind, you don’t have to ask the Lord a question about a prospective mate that he has already clearly shown you by his fruit disqualifications. I’m reminded of the saying in Matthew 7:16 “You will recognize them by their fruit.”
And why again would you ask God if that man is the one for you, while the fruit on his tree is clearly rotten? It doesn’t matter what he’s saying, you need to check that fruit. Always remember, things don’t go wrong, they start wrong.
If you’re feeling restless, confused, or pressured to make a decision, then step back a bit.
Let me give you a few scenarios where you may need to just….chill.
If you find yourself thinking or saying to yourself the following, I strongly advise you step back:
“God told me, but he hasn’t told him yet”
Sis, save yourself heartache and tears . I’ve seen women distraught as they believed that God told them that they would marry a certain man, only for that man to not know anything about them or even be mildly interested.
Remember this, God is not “a God of confusion” (1 Cor. 14:33)
◊Helping Note: Dear Sis, if God can speak to you about him, then God can speak to him about you. Chill.
“I saw my husband in a dream”
Hmmm, have you ever had a crazy dream before? All dreams are not prophetic.
I repeat, just because you dreamed it doesn’t mean that you dreamed God’s will for you. You may have to chalk it up to a meal you ate before you went to sleep, but don’t wake up and start planning your wedding with this guy just because of a dream.
♥ Relax.
♥ Enjoy life.
♥ Stop stressing.
♥ Stop worrying.
Here are a few things that you can do to ensure that you are staying sober in choosing a mate.
Stay in God’s presence!
◊ Helping Note: Dear Sis, the more you run towards God, the more the imposters will run away from you.
Some men can generally be weeded out just by your pursuit of God. A counterfeit will get tired of pretending to love God. He will get tired of you raving.
Rest!
Speak this over yourself: I will be and I will have everything that God has purposed for my life according to Jeremiah 29:11.
Now seriously, rest.
Rest in knowing that if God wants you to be married, then trust that you will be. Stop wondering what’s taking so long and stop worrying if you have missed God.
Rest in the assurance that you are right in the place that God wants you to be. Your steps are ordered. God’s got you! KNOW that.
Stay Accountable
This is important so you won’t have a side, secret relationship that nobody knows about but you two! You need proven, Godly people in your life that can say, “Yes, he’s on the right track or Girl, no! What are you thinking? He does what? He says what? And be sure that those you are accountable to are emotionally healthy. You don’t want someone spewing bad advice to you.
These are just a few! For all of you ladies reading this, I pray that God absolutely blows your mind this week! Thank you all so much for your continued support of the blog! I appreciate all of the shares on social media and comments on the blog. Bonus: I’ve included a bonus chapter in the book since it was a few days late, I hope you enjoy!
Remember, the subject of the blog is changing for the next upcoming blogs, and I can’t wait to share with you what God has placed on my heart.
Do. Not. Settle
Love you so much,
♥Amanda Ferguson♥
Wife. Mother. Author.
Mrs. Ferguson….neeeeded thiiiiss! I am being blessed so much by you and your husband’s ministry. My God! I choose to rest in God’s love for me. Thanks for the reminder.
awww thanks and you’re welcome!
This is good! I hear a lot a church women say “God told me he is my husband” and the man already has a wife. I have seen women destroy marriages because “God told them” which I know is a lie, God don’t work like that.
🙂 thanks for reading!
Love it! Glad me and my husband were both on the same page. I try to tell a lot of women some of the things your spoke about!
yay! just direct them to the blog 🙂
Sometimes in ministry when you set out to do things you say “Lord, even if it’s just for one person.. Let this word that you gave me bless somebody.” I want to tell you that this word was for ME.. And I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart and with tears in my eyes.. Thank you for being willing to let God use you.. Without sharing too much, My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday.. It was a surprise and I was stunned because I couldn’t fathom what was bringing all of this about. For the last (almost exactly) 24 hours I’ve been wrecking my mind and asking God to reveal to me why this happened if He told me this man was my husband. This man has even professed to others that I was his wife.. but his FRUITS kept me on my knees and laying him at the feet of Jesus because I knew that God needed to reach him. One day, God even told me that He is going to reach my boyfriend but I can’t be in the way. I didn’t know what that meant at the time but I do now. Yesterday morning when I was talking to God, while on my morning walk, I told Him to take the relationship in His hands. I said that if it needed to be reset or finished so that He could reach my boyfriend then to please allow my boyfriend to end it because I love him too much and don’t have the strength. Needless to say, only a few hours later it was over for reasons that made no sense to me.. But I thank God for his peace because I have not fallen apart and He has placed people, spoken words, and other nuggets (including this blog post) in my path to wrap me up and comfort me during this time.. So again I say thank you and may God continue blessing your and your husbands ministries.
yay so glad it blessed you ! I think you will really enjoy the book too
It’s interesting…my boyfriend of 1 year and I, were just discussing this last night. We were talking about whether or not God chooses your mate for you or gives you the power to choose! Our conclusion was that he gives us choice based on the attributes (or fruit) of the person you’re with. So, you must’ve clearly heard from God on this one! Thank you for these wisdom keys! Definitely very helpful!
Glad I could help:)
Yes! This has blessed me so much! 🙂 Really Love your blog! Keep doing what you do and I pray you get better! God Bless You and Your Family!
I can now rest my mind knowing gods best can be for me
Amen !
What an amazing word God knew how I’ve been feeling for some time now looking at my age, (I’m like God did you forget about me? I’m still single) but reading your blogs I am more content with God’s timing for my life. I really needed these words of inspiration on tonight.
I Thank God for you.
so glad to hear:)
Awesome!! I must say the Lord spoke and yet speaks to me concerning my husband. The Lord told me He was the one for me. I believe that the more the woman seeks God He will reveal even the hidden things to her and that the man has no idea why he is sharing certain things in his life that he had not even shared with anyone.. God is so amazing!!!
Prophetess, amazing post! Quick testimony: a saga from 2008-2015. A college acquaintance was interested in me, wanted to date me, then had an indirect falling out with me and randomly stopped talking to me. I was distraught and confused. After years of keeping him before the Lord, he reached out to me 3 different years on social media, but we never spoke regularly to mend things. Years later in 2013, I reached out to him when I found out his workplace was attacked and told him what he meant to me. Didn’t receive a thank you. Fast forward, I ushered at a BHMM crusade in 2015, met an apostle who prophesied God would bring him around. Prophecy fulfilled. To GOD Be ALL the Glory! Today I write to you as a prophetic evangelist, filled with the holy ghost since June 2016, serving on 2 alumni committees with this guy. Of course, he is NOT the one, but hey, he strikes up a conversation with me the start of each committee meeting! lol :p
I am so grateful that you share the anointing on your life with us. God is blessing your family so much and I stand in support of what He has done and is doing now. God bless you Amanda. I really mean that
I really need this advice at this season of my life.
awww thank you glad to hear that:)
Amanda thank you for sharing .To MimiG I had a similar story with a Christian man that I was dating and the day I asked the lord to reset my life and his life . I used those exact words he emailed not a in person conversation to tell me he can’t see me anymore because the” spirit told him to leave me so that I can focus on getting my life together and my walk with God. I was so heart broken but then I surrendered to the lord and said I can’t fight God or what God is doing .
I pressed into God’s presence and His word and was able to focus more on God and less on this man or the relationship . A week later I ended it. Katie Souza Living in The Glory Light ministered to me about soul wounds and getting healed of soul wounds .
Check it out on youtbe
https://youtu.be/EB5w8aPVyL4
K,
thanks so much for sharing the video. It helped me trenendously!
Amanda,
Thanks for your transparency and for being kind, obedient, and bold enough to speak the truth in love. I really needed every bit of your godly encouragement and counsel here.
Bless you.
awww so glad you were blessed!
L.O.V.E love it!! Thanks big sis!! This was gooooooood
I love this. I work with teenage girls with fathers who were unfaithful husbands. They tell me how worried they are that they will end up with cheating husbands like their mothers did. That’s when I tell them to CHILL. I see their hearts and I know that they’re too smart to fall for someone like that. I only wish that they could see the wisdom that the Lord has given them as I do. Like you said, honest pursuit of the Lord is enough to weed out most bad eggs anyway.
Amen!
This speaks so much life to me God Bless you for obedience in writing this.
Miss Ferguson!! you nailed it again!! I have learned you don’t marry for love, looks, material possession etc. you must be a whole person. Your blogs are so encouraging I am in pursue of destiny and purpose. At work God has placed me in the mist of women(who go to church but no life style of an authentic Christian) to be a light. It’s called an assignment for the King:) It was not always easy I ask the Holy Spirit to help me balance righteous indignation when I am grieved. Thank you for sharing what the father place in your heart!! You are a precious gift to the body of Christ. Blessing WOG!!
thank you so much!
Please continue to feed us! We need this in our lives! This is soooo true! God bless you sis!
This is absolutely amazing! God is so on time! So refreshing I had tears in my eyes. I Thank God for your wisdom.