This is an hour to use wisdom in all that we do and even with our finances. Many have dreams of a fairytale wedding and even when that’s possible, use wisdom in your reality. I know that this is a sensitive topic for ladies, because we’ve imagined our perfect day as little girls. Now for those who are in this season and feel pressured to live up to family, friends, and even social media, let me encourage you. Here’s why my husband and I decided to take a “not so normal” approach to an American wedding.
1. It made sense.
Listen, Jonathan and I didn’t have much when we got married. He was still traveling, speaking, writing books, and I was a flight attendant at the time averaging a whopping $20,000 a year. When we got married, we had an apartment, a bed & dresser w/mirror, and a television without a television stand. That’s it! Not spending thousands of dollars on a wedding for one day?…well, it just made sense.
WHY would we get credit cards to pay for a wedding? Refused to do it.
WHY would we solicit funds from family and friends for a one day event? Refused to do it.
WHY would we get in even more debt to have the appearance of something for one day while we could be building for our future? Refused to do it.
WHY would we be stretched for money starting a marriage when the #1 reason for DIVORCE is financial stress? Refused to do it.
Though some family and even some friends tried to pressure us into having a wedding “since it’s a day we wouldn’t forget”….we reminded ourselves of debt that we ALSO wouldn’t be able to forget, and we made our decision not to have a “wedding” …it just made sense.
2. We were focused on building.
We didn’t have a tremendous amount of debt, but we both had student loans that we were adamant about paying off.
So, we got married in a house. Yep, I said it…a house! We had about 50 of our closest family members, godparents, and friends present. Jonathan wore a suit that he already had, and I bought a $200 dress only because I didn’t have a formal dress in my closet already.
We got married on a Wednesday evening. That Friday morning, I was putting on my flight attendant uniform heading right back to work. We had our honeymoon in Memphis where we resided at the time. Jonathan had planned to come to work with me, because I had a layover in Florida that weekend, but the flights were completely booked….so he stayed home and unpacked our things, and we worked on vision while I was on my layover at work.
We were building something.
♥ Helping Note: Dear Sis, spend more time planning for your marriage than you do for your wedding! Weddings are only one day.
It’s been 5+ years later, and we always say that that was one of the smartest decisions of our lives! We don’t feel like we missed out on anything AT all, in fact I think we started off with an advantage because we weren’t worried about how to finish paying off a wedding. So, no, we didn’t have the wedding of our dreams, but we do have the marriage of our dreams. …and to us, that means so much more.
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