When My Husband Travels: 2 Things I Do To Make His Life Easier

♥Husband travels
My current situation:

I’m sitting here grabbing a bite to eat while all three of our girls are napping. Actually, I’m stuffing my face while planning in my head how to get the kids in bed and the house spotless before my husband arrives back home in T-7 hours. My husband travels weekly, and when he comes back home, he always says “I’m so happy to be home”. This makes me sooooo happy. Let me share with you two ways that I help make my husband’s life easier.

1. I don’t dump.

We have three children three and under. Whew!!! Some moments, it’s wonderful, and sometimes it’s just downright hard. There are times I feel like I can hold everything together, and there are times when I feel like everything is falling apart. I feel like I have to go to the bathroom and regroup…until a certain 3-year-old and 2-year-old come and stand at the door and knock until I open it:)

Unless it’s really a life/death situation or something that I need my husband to pray with me about at that very moment, I don’t dump my issues on him while he’s gone. While he’s travelling, teaching and preaching the gospel, I try to hold it down at home. I don’t want to add any extra stress on him while he’s gone. I’m so careful that his attention is not divided.

I’m also not quick to vent as soon as he gets home either. But I DO vent in prayer. My motto: “I tell God the negative, and tell my husband the positive” quote I adopted from Ruth Graham. For me, this was truly a game changer.

2. I create a welcoming environment.

I try to treat our home like a “hotel”. Think about how you feel when you enter in a hotel room . Everything is neat, clean, and in order. That’s the way that I like to keep our home: neat, clean, and in order. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a challenge! But God graces me for it.

Dear Sis:  A wise woman builds her home. Build!

My husband KNOWS that he will never come home to a house, a wife, or his children unkept. From the time he lands, I’m timing his arrival home. Having a 5 month old, my shirt gets dirty frequently. So I change clothes, make sure my hair is tidy, and add some lipstick/lip gloss. I check my attitude to make sure it’s inviting- well because having all 3 girls all day by myself can make me feel like an earthquake ran over me!

So, I remind myself to release all stress and be inviting to my husband…in my appearance and my attitude. I also make sure that all of the rooms are clean as well as making sure that the kids are clean. Also, just a few minutes before I know that he will pull into the driveway, I get the older girls settled with their favorite snacks so that I can do my last-minute “walk through” through the house to make sure absolutely everything is wonderful for him when he walks through the door. This takes a LOT of planning on my end. At times, I’ve even asked for extra people to come over to help me clean, or babysitters to tend to the girls so I can tidy things up. It’s a lot of work, but it’s so worth it!

What do you do to make your husband’s life easier? Comment below.

 


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Amanda Ferguson. Wife. Mother. Author. Entrepreneur.

20 Comments

  1. Teresa Iloba on 8 May 2017 at 9:16 am

    This gave must insight. I just got married Friday and my husband is a bishop from Nigeria. There are still some things I gotta learn. Thank you for this post

    • amandafergusonblog on 8 May 2017 at 9:19 am

      You’re welcome 🙂 And congrats !

    • Tanika Wheeler on 9 May 2017 at 10:53 am

      This was so helpful! I have been married for a long time and still need to be challenged to be a better wife. Thank you so much!

  2. Gloria marshall on 8 May 2017 at 9:38 am

    I just want to send you a note of encouragement. I’m now a grandmother and was a single mother of one daughter. One of the most important and under appreciated roles is that of a mother. I’m fortune to still have both my mother and father still living and together for 66 years this year in September. I came from a home where my mother was a homemaker and cooked 3 meals a day. My parents raised 6 children of which I’m the oldest. After growing up and only raising one child I don’t know how my mother did it with 6 children of which 4 were boys! But she did. This weekend my sister and I are honoring her for her dedication to the family. My dad was diagnosed with Parkinson and she is currently caring for him.
    I know that each one of your daughters will take pieces of you when they have families of their own. This time now for you is hectic and can be overwhelming at times but believe me you will reap the benefits when you look back. Those fleeting moments will be in the distant past before long. I pray your continued strength, patience, love, peace and happiness for you and your family. Thanks so much for sharing, young women today need to know that having a loving, clean home is possible. Love you!

  3. Natasha Rose on 8 May 2017 at 9:49 am

    Insight from experience is always welcomed in my book! Especially since I desire to travel that rode in the near future! Thank you much as always for sharing your sisterly nuggets! ❤

  4. Frances McGee on 8 May 2017 at 10:01 am

    This was so helpful! My husband travels for weeks at a time(truck driver). I really have to work on these two areas! Gave me something to think more about. Thanks sis! 💋

  5. Alisa Miller on 8 May 2017 at 10:42 am

    Thanks for the wisdom! I’m not married yet, but I’m gleaning! I appreciate the wisdom you’re willing to impart to us.

  6. Sherrie Madkins on 8 May 2017 at 1:19 pm

    Thanks for sharing so much wisdom!!!! Blessings to you and your family!!!

  7. Kelli Anderson on 8 May 2017 at 6:51 pm

    I’m not married yet but really appreciate you for sharing this also something I can add to my list and your a great mom!💜💜💜

  8. Felice Jones on 8 May 2017 at 8:01 pm

    Wow. Thanks got sharing. May God continue yo bless you & your husband.

  9. Toni Russell on 8 May 2017 at 10:00 pm

    My husband usually calls before he gets home, so I know his eta. My son is usually the one who yells “dad’s home”. His dinner is hot and on the plate when he comes through the door.

  10. Sheneil on 9 May 2017 at 11:02 am

    Loved this , so enlightening.❤️

  11. Desiree M. Mondesir on 10 May 2017 at 3:28 am

    This is wonderful, simple, practical advice for any wife! I love it! This kind of wisdom is far too little appreciated in a society full of women screaming for feminism (which has ZERO to do with all things feminine), and yet I understand too an extent because there is the other end of the spectrum where some women are almost if not actually cultish in their devotion to homemaking and guilty of idolizing their husband/family. I truly appreciate the balance presented by this article and by you in general. 🙂

    P.S. I will NEVER forget the image of your hubby preaching in the baby harness (is that what it’s called?) at #BootcampATL!! Preaching, roaring, and “layin’ and slayin’ ’em” all in the harness!! LOL I love it because he is so unashamed to be a great husband to you and father to your girls. You can tell that the effort in your marriage is not just one-sided; it’s not all you serving and him getting the “glory.” You serve, support, encourage, and root for each other. Your vision never takes a backseat to his; rather, it’s unified. I LOVE it!! 🙂

    • amandafergusonblog on 11 May 2017 at 11:01 am

      This was SO sweet ! 🙂 Thank you thank you 🙂

  12. Tracye Snow on 10 May 2017 at 6:07 am

    This was an awesome piece! I’m loving your courage, your honesty, your transparency and your love for your husband. GOD has given you insight on how to speak life in the hearts of women who want to love on their husbands and love on the word of GOD, that he has laid before us.
    Grace & Blessings..
    Tracye Snow

  13. Mildred A Hood on 11 May 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Hi Amanda I am also a mother,grandmother and retiree I might add I am 68 yrs. young and enjoy all your blogs beings such a young mother and wife you have so much wisdom I hope to see you at your next boot Camp in Jacksonville, Fl. in July 2017 oh !! your little girls are so cute !!!

    • amandafergusonblog on 11 May 2017 at 6:46 pm

      awww thank you and yes! hope to see you there !

  14. Vonda Simmons on 12 May 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Not married yet but definitely taking notes

  15. NC on 22 May 2017 at 1:53 pm

    Wow. Thanks for this. As a mom of ONE, I find it SO hard to do this because I too work a demanding job. My husband has his own business and is pretty much full time in ministry. I NEEDED this word. I’m convicted to do better, now I need God’s strength because pregnancy, bar study, and working as an attorney don’t leave much time for house cleaning and it is SO stressful. God is faithful, though!

    • amandafergusonblog on 22 May 2017 at 4:56 pm

      amen, praying for you. God will give you the perfect strategy to get it done without wearing you out:)

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