5 Practical Ways to Prepare to be a Wife Pt. 1

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Remember this
, God will bless you to the level of your preparation.

Do you just want to be married? Or do you want to be a wife?

Wives are the keepers of their homes, the protector of their atmospheres, and the glue that holds the family together. Here are a few practical things to cultivate as you prepare to be a Godly wife.

1. Learn How to Cook

Ok, I know we’re in the age where dining out and getting take out is convenient, but let me tell you something ladies, a way to a man’s heart is still through his stomach.

A man loves a good home-cooked meal. Before, I was 22, I couldn’t boil water. Seriously, I didn’t know anything about the kitchen. I had no interest in cooking, but when I got saved at 22, something shifted in me.

I suddenly had the desire to improve myself as a lady in every aspect of my life. I asked my mom and other great cooks to show me a few meals. I also googled recipes and got a ton of ideas. Sometimes they were great, and sometimes they were terrible, but I kept improving!

By the time I got married 4 years later, I was a really good cook. My husband thinks I’m an amazing cook, and he is a very picky eater. If you’re not the best cook, it’s okay. Spend a little time each week working on a new dish. Once you’ve mastered that dish, move on to the next one. Before you know it, you’ll have a reservoir of good meals that you’ve mastered. Your future husband will thank you.

2. Clean it Up

If you’re at home right now, take a look around your house. Is it messy? Is it organized? Do you have clothes every year? Piles of dishes in the sink?

◊ Helping Note:  Dear sis, you can’t be deep in the spirit and dirty at home.  Clean it up.

Cleanliness is next to godliness. Your home is your atmosphere. Keep it clean, keep it inviting, keep it organized. Men appreciate a clean house. Oh, and a clean bathroom.

That’s right, they don’t want to see your eyeshadow, lashes, brushes, and combs all over the bathroom counter. That may mean, you might have to leave home a little earlier to tidy up before you head out each day. Contrary to what you may think, the cleanliness that you develop NOW is how you will be as a wife. If cleaning hasn’t become a habit now, then you will struggle greatly when you get married.

So, I learned to try my best to put things back as soon as I use it. I’ve found that if I don’t, things will just start building up. Then when it was time to clean up everything, I’d get overwhelmed.

I remember once spending TWO HOURS cleaning out drawers just because I would throw my clothes in drawers and didn’t know where anything was….. TWO hours! From that point, I decided that I needed a change. I needed to be organized and stay organized so I wouldn’t have to constantly start from scratch.

Practical Habits to Enforce 

* When trying on clothes, if you don’t wear that outfit, don’t put it on the floor or bed, hang it back up

* When you take off your shoes, don’t just put them somewhere, put them in their place

* When you cook, fill the sink with dish water, so you can wash dishes as you go

* When you check the mail, immediately discard things you don’t need so that miscellaneous papers won’t crowd your home

* When you apply your makeup, place all makeup, tools, etc. back into there proper place.

Those are only a few tips. Remember, when you really value something, you MAINTAIN it.

3. Work on Your Appearance

While women are moved by their emotions, men are moved by what they see. They are visual beings.

This is why it’s important to look your best and “keep yourself up”. That doesn’t mean that you have to look like a model, but that means that everyday you should look your best.

It’s perfectly alright to spend extra time making sure that you look great from head to toe. This means you can NOT wear a bonnet, scarf, and pajamas to the store because you need to “run to the store really quickly.” I feel like I just stepped on a few toes just then. It’s okay to say ouch. Remember, house shoes are for the HOUSE.

◊ Helping Note:  Dear Sis, you can be holy and not look homely. 

I know you may be enjoying this, but I’m going to stop here for now. I’ll continue my teaching on appearance along with the other two tips in my next blog.

This year, Do Not settle.

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Love you so much,

Amanda Ferguson


  1. Aleya Jones on 3 Feb 2017 at 2:11 am

    Thank you Sis.. I enjoy reading your blogs and look forward to the next encouraging and preparatory word. Love You.. God Bless ?

  2. conquering_bondage_91 on 3 Feb 2017 at 3:07 am

    Amazing as always 🙂 shared on facebook and twitter!! God bless, looking for more amazing posts!

  3. Jordan Moyer on 3 Feb 2017 at 3:07 am

    I just wanted to say thank you for being such an amazing woman of God to look up to, and for allowing God to use you in giving these amazing blogs that are full of wisdom and knowledge. I really enjoy reading your blogs, and I’m always SO BLESSED by them. I appreciate you Sis!! God bless you and your family!

  4. steps4changeblog on 3 Feb 2017 at 4:30 am

    You said it Mrs. Amanda!! Been married for almost 7 years this month and these are things that we all need to be reminded about!!! I am always thinking about things like this and how I can be a better mother and wife. You are on point.

  5. Katrina flowers on 3 Feb 2017 at 8:53 am

    These will be notes I write down to remind myself to get these things in order before I put marriage in the order. These are common sense notes but we fall off and need reminding of the things that potentially helps us not destroy. Thank you very much Lady Ferguson.

  6. ariyale on 3 Feb 2017 at 2:00 pm

    sis thank you for you blogs!!! they bless me greatly!

  7. Tonya on 3 Feb 2017 at 3:01 pm

    Omg, what an awesome read. I love your straightforward approach on this. I have female friends but we never discuss things like this. I will definitely be tuning in from now on. Thank you so much

  8. Loftspeaker1 on 3 Feb 2017 at 6:35 pm
  9. Mildred Hood on 3 Feb 2017 at 10:22 pm

    I love your blogs Amanda, keep them coming !!!

  10. Ambassador_April on 4 Feb 2017 at 12:47 am

    Mrs. Amanda on point!! I enjoyed reading your blog as always.I like to cook but because I am single and busy.I don’t cook a lot and I have cut back on certain foods so I can maintain good health. I think I will try a new dish. keep the blogs coming:)

  11. Christa on 4 Feb 2017 at 2:54 am

    Love it! Yo are an awesome women on God. God bless you!

  12. Grace E. on 4 Feb 2017 at 6:50 am

    Thank you for this post! It might sound strange, but the very 1st sentence, starting with “remember this,” really hit me like a rhema word. I realize that I have been complacent lately when it comes to actually “preparing” for marriage and I feel like God used that to remind me to get serious about it, lol especially with learning how to cook. I’m doing great with point #2, I can’t stand being messy or dirty. I’m almost there with point #3. I love dressong comfortably when I go out, no scarves, pajamas, or other “head gear” though. But I am starting to dress more presentably and like a woman, less like a tomboy, lol. Thanks so much again for the real talk. May God continue to bless you.

  13. Shekinah on 4 Feb 2017 at 9:33 pm

    Your blogs are always amazing. They always make me want to know more. Thank you so much for being down to earth and for being an inspiration. God Bless You!!!

  14. Angela on 7 Feb 2017 at 2:10 am

    Great tips Lady Ferguson which I believe are transferable whether you are looking to get married or just a contented single lady.

  15. Desirae Williams on 7 Feb 2017 at 2:27 am

    Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you. Your encouraging words continue to be a light. God bless you abundantly!!

  16. Brenda on 7 Feb 2017 at 8:49 am

    Thanks Amanda…I needed this!

  17. Lisha Murray on 7 Feb 2017 at 1:47 pm

    Thanks Lady Ferguson! You are amazing. I’ve got work to do :))))). God bless you. I will share on my Facebook page. For all the sisters, we thank you!

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