It’s been awhile since my last blog post. Between preparing for the students in my Etiquette University, and ministry events…and well, trying to not just survive, but thrive with three under 5, it’s been quite busy! I’m enjoying the journey. But this post is all about being a wife.
A wise woman buildeth her home….
It’s my passion that wives realize that God has already given them the tools that you need to be a good wife….not a perfect wife, but a good wife. It is up to us to rise up to the occasion. My mom died before I was married, so I was on the prowl to learn everything that I could about being a good wife on my own at times. I’ve learned so many great tips and as we approach 6 years of marriage in less than 4 months, I must tell you my #1 success secret.
What has helped me really be able to be in sync with my husband for the last several years is the fact that I keep a “Desire Journal” that is allll about my husband. I try to write in it every single day.
In my desire journal, the first thing I do is PRAY for my husband. I write very specific and detailed requests to God concerning my husband in this journal. Afterwards, I intently pray over him morning, during the day, and at night. I ask the Lord to show me everything that I need to do to be an excellent wife and helper to him.
Helping Note: God has graced you to be the answer to your husband. Don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed. You have it in you!
The next thing I do, is OBSERVE him. Over the course of the years, my husband’s desires have changed. Sometimes, he may love darker colors in our home, and other times he may like lighter colors. We have several meetings where I’ll ask, “How do you like how the house looks? How do you like my hair like this? Is there anything that you would like done differently? “
I’m very creative, so atmosphere means a lot me, and I know that it means a lot to my husband as well. He is the king of our home, and our home is his castle. I want it to always be visually appealing, and a place of peace and tranquility.
Lastly, I IMPLEMENT these things. Sometimes, it may be simply adding a beautiful array of flowers to our kitchen. Other times, it may be changing up pillows to a certain room. Lately, it’s been making sure that we have organizational systems in place, so even when I’m gone, he’ll know where everything is.
So far, he’s been happy. We are enjoying the journey, and excited about the years to come because it IS possible to have a happy marriage, and be a great wife! Comment on this post and let me know what you will do today to start being more in synch with the order of your home.
We have a role ladies. God has not called the women to be the men, and He has not called the men to be the women. The role of the women DOES NOT mean that we can’t be successful just as much as the role of the man does not entitle men to success. However, when each individual embraces their God given role we find that we are more in synch with God given favor.
There is so much more that I could teach about being a wife, preparing to be a wife, and especially about organizational management. I believe that when your mind and surroundings are filled with disorder, then your life will follow the disorder. I would love to take you on a journey with me for 21 days and help bring order into your life with proven systems that would only take 30 minutes of your day to implement. After all, who has hours and hours? Whew, I don’t. If you would like to go on that journey with me click here, and I’ll send you more info shortly.
Love you all so much,